If there was one show that I could watch over and over again it would be Sex And The City. I truly believe that it’s one of the best-written shows with the perfect blend of chic, depth and wit. I know most people will disagree with the depth part, P included. We got into the SATC discussion the other night and I had a lot of thoughts left unsaid. He was of the opinion that SATC single-handedly damaged women’s self-image and perspective. If I may quote him, “SATC just brought shallowness to all new heights.” I beg to disagree!
I guess if you happen to catch just one episode you would get the impression that the show is just all about sex, image and fashion. But you have to go beyond the show’s face value to appreciate the compelling insights about a woman’s life journey. The same way that you can’t judge women by their looks. Just because we put a lot of effort into looking fabulous doesn’t mean we’re shallow. We can be passionate about fashion and be fierce in the boardroom at the same time. While we search and wait for the perfect mate, we are also trying to make a positive impact in our community. We’re multi-faceted and multi-dimensional.
The SATC execution may be a bit exaggerated, specially the number of pairs of Manolo Blahniks they own and how frequently they have sex, but the insights in every episode are real and relevant to women. It deals about the complexities of relationships and how women grow and learn to accept ourselves more after every encounter whether it was meaningful, exhilarating, superficial, momentary or heartbreaking. Yes, we are all looking for love but at the same time there is a limit to how much we will compromise our personal values (whether good or bad).
“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.”
- Carrie Bradshaw
The show was also about great friendships. Girlfriends that are always there to help us bounce back after each fall. We may not always agree with our friends but there is a bond between women that just draws us together when it counts most. During our journey towards self-discovery and our constant search for Mr. Right, we will always have the security of knowing that we have girlfriends who will love us for who we are (or who we are not).
“Maybe mistakes are what make our fate... without them what would shape our lives? Maybe if we had never veered off course we wouldn't fall in love, have babies, or be who we are. After all, things change, so do cities, people come into your life and they go. But it's comforting to know that the ones you love are always in your heart... and if you're very lucky, a plane ride away”
- Carrie Bradshaw
I dedicate this entry to my great friends Jill, Marla, Barbie and Carly!